So many times our lives get busy and we forget the simple things in life. We forget about the one thing that GOD blessed women to be.
Being a mother.
Motherhood is that one thing that everyone knows that describes me. It’s not because I’m almost an Octomom with my 4 kids but it’s because I LOVE being a mother. I love everything about it from the crazy chaotic days to the simple quiet moments. I love taking care of my family and watching my little ones grow and make mistakes.
But here lately I’ve lost a little mama mojo. With all of the personal things going on, I’ve kind of been a ‘not there’ mama. I feel terrible when I look back and see how my situation has effected my kids. It makes me extremely sad but the good thing about it is that I see it, I recognize it and I’m going to make sure that I re-establish that connection that I had with my kids.
So I sat down & made a list of ways that I felt would help with rebuilding our connection & show them that I love them.
I’m a sharer so I decided to share with you guys just in case you’re like me and need a little wake up call in the motherhood department– if not, and you’re a supermom– exit now and come back tomorrow!
1: Start back eating at least one meal a day together
This is something that I’ve always been bad at, I’m a multi-tasker. While the hubs & kids eat– I’m usually cleaning, folding laundry or trying to catch up with any other task that was left undone throughout the day. Bad mama, I know but I’ll work this out easy– it’s just about stopping & walking away.
2: Individual alone time with mommie
I have four kiddos so finding those special moments alone with each one is a must. To fix this– I made a little reminder of certain days each week to sit down & share myself with each one.
3: Deliberately touch your little ones
This could be in the form of hugs, kisses or just a high-five! Having a physical connection with your my little bits always makes my day & their day better
4: Say or write how much you love them
It’s something that should be said everyday all day but a lot of time, the busyness of day to day task can make you forget
5: Listen to their jams & jam out
It’s something about turning on Justin B & rocking out with my boys that just makes their day. They see mommie look silly ( and that’s always a laugh)
6: Get back to our Friday family night
We use to be so faithful with this one. Rather it was a movie, playing on the Wii or baking & cooking together– this is always a favorite of theirs.
7: Read together
8: Be creative together (my favorite)
9: Get fit together
As a wife of a personal/sports trainer this should just be a given but it’s not. We as a family workout individual (boy’s with basketball, daddy with work & I run & workout 3 times a week) we never really do it together much.
10: Keep a prayer journal with the kids ( this is something new I found & want to try)
Ask your kids for prayer request daily; journal their request; pray for them & then journal the answers. Share the prayer journal with them every three months or so. They will know you love them & see the working of GOD in their lives— LOVE!
So there you have it! I’m going to do better.
I’m not saying that I’m a bad mama because I’m not but I am saying that I’ve been slacking & I got to fix it.
What about you– do personal situations affect your parenting lifestyle? How do you stay connected with your kiddos?
About Chene
Hey there, I'm Chene. Wife, mother, Editor of Prototype Mama and Founder of Southern Girl Blog Community. Prototype Mama is a place where I share my passion for crafts, joy of entertaining & journey through fitness & fashion as a mama. Grab some tea, kick up your chucks & stay for awhile.
