So many times our lives get busy and we forget the simple things in life. We forget about the one thing that GOD blessed women to be.
Being a mother.
Motherhood is that one thing that everyone knows that describes me. It’s not because I’m almost an Octomom with my 4 kids but it’s because I LOVE being a mother. I love everything about it from the crazy chaotic days to the simple quiet moments. I love taking care of my family and watching my little ones grow and make mistakes.
But here lately I’ve lost a little mama mojo. With all of the personal things going on, I’ve kind of been a ‘not there’ mama. I feel terrible when I look back and see how my situation has effected my kids. It makes me extremely sad but the good thing about it is that I see it, I recognize it and I’m going to make sure that I re-establish that connection that I had with my kids.
So I sat down & made a list of ways that I felt would help with rebuilding our connection & show them that I love them.
I’m a sharer so I decided to share with you guys just in case you’re like me and need a little wake up call in the motherhood department– if not, and you’re a supermom– exit now and come back tomorrow!
1: Start back eating at least one meal a day together
This is something that I’ve always been bad at, I’m a multi-tasker. While the hubs & kids eat– I’m usually cleaning, folding laundry or trying to catch up with any other task that was left undone throughout the day. Bad mama, I know but I’ll work this out easy– it’s just about stopping & walking away.
2: Individual alone time with mommie
I have four kiddos so finding those special moments alone with each one is a must. To fix this– I made a little reminder of certain days each week to sit down & share myself with each one.
3: Deliberately touch your little ones
This could be in the form of hugs, kisses or just a high-five! Having a physical connection with your my little bits always makes my day & their day better
4: Say or write how much you love them
It’s something that should be said everyday all day but a lot of time, the busyness of day to day task can make you forget
5: Listen to their jams & jam out
It’s something about turning on Justin B & rocking out with my boys that just makes their day. They see mommie look silly ( and that’s always a laugh)
6: Get back to our Friday family night
We use to be so faithful with this one. Rather it was a movie, playing on the Wii or baking & cooking together– this is always a favorite of theirs.
7: Read together
8: Be creative together (my favorite)
9: Get fit together
As a wife of a personal/sports trainer this should just be a given but it’s not. We as a family workout individual (boy’s with basketball, daddy with work & I run & workout 3 times a week) we never really do it together much.
10: Keep a prayer journal with the kids ( this is something new I found & want to try)
Ask your kids for prayer request daily; journal their request; pray for them & then journal the answers. Share the prayer journal with them every three months or so. They will know you love them & see the working of GOD in their lives— LOVE!
So there you have it! I’m going to do better.
I’m not saying that I’m a bad mama because I’m not but I am saying that I’ve been slacking & I got to fix it.
What about you– do personal situations affect your parenting lifestyle? How do you stay connected with your kiddos?